5. Make them feel safe enough to fail. 

When people are learning, growing, or going through grief or transition, they are bound to make some mistakes along the way. When we, as their space holders, withhold judgement and shame, we offer them the opportunity to reach inside themselves to find the courage to take risks and the resilience to keep going even when they fail. When we let them know that failure is simply a part of the journey and not the end of the world, they’ll spend less time beating themselves up for it and more time learning from their mistakes.

http://heatherplett.com/2015/03/hold-space/

(I cannot seem to scream this at people enough. Heh, irony. Stop hurting people who you say you love by not letting them fail!)

(Thank Gosh that I've been able to play this part and learn to love people who very much need it and for those who modeled  this in my life. Bill Eubanks to start, The Pollacks, Christy, Tiff, Mary, and many many many others.)

(Also, also, The Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt is amazing. Tina Fey is ds bomb.)